Disney Pixar’s latest movie, Luca has an interesting motivational message in its refrain of “Silenzio Bruno!” In the movie, Alberto tells Luca to repeat this to himself to silence his inner negative voice.
Sometimes that inner critic is just sooooo loud. I think that can be especially true on social media: what if no one likes my message, what if I overstep a boundary? Or in relationships around our physical image or preferences. What will they think of me?
AND it is especially true in clinical medicine where the room for error is “zero.” What sort of dialog do we start with ourselves when a “mistake” is made or we when our minds become so vigilant to prevent mistakes that there is no ease in the day.
Hubby, Amar Atma and I are in couples counseling. WOW what a game changer to start observing and listening to the inner critic that arrives into our relationship. We use the phrase at times:
”the story I am telling myself is… “
which usually is not the same version that other person has.
Bringing both mindfulness, pausing and humor into our life has shifted everything.
We were not able to do that on our own without the support of a counselor.
Let’s work on normalizing getting therapy and counseling when the balance in our mental, emotional and spiritual realms feel out of balance or we are hurting.
In my study of Ayurveda, I learned so much more about how physiologic mechanisms can also be strong contributors to mental health as well. I love that modern scientific and clinical paradigms are coming into that too.
Personally, my inner critic is loud, over bearing and wrong most of the time. I try to meet myself with compassion and softness once I am able to observe it. Though it’s not always easy, that’s been one of the tools I use. And sometimes – I need to just ask the critic to be silent and create an internal boundary. 🙏😘