Last night I had a conversation briefly with an old friend. We’re both Internists. Which means that through the course of our training and work, we’ve taken care of some of the sickest patients in the medical system. If quickly came up for me in the conversation that we need to be sharing with each other the idea that you are enough.
She works as a hospitalist/ICUs.
What she described to me in the inpatient setting… I don’t even actually have words to share. More deaths and codes in one shift that she would typically have over several months. Very young people who are very sick. And concerns of oxygen supplies. And this is staff who have been doing *this* now for over 18 months. That period of time to be under so much stress impacts the nervous system in profound ways. If you are a clinician – confidential help line 888-409-0141
And she has the heart of a healer.
She cares so much about the outcome and well-being of every single patient she interacts with. An admirable career. And she keeps showing up.
But last night I heard some thing different.
That despite somehow everything she was doing, it wasn’t enough.
There are impossible decisions that physicians never have anticipated making, ever, in their career and now they are worried about the impact to their emotional well being.
In my heart I just kept sensing, you are enough. What you are doing is enough. How are you are showing up is enough. What you can give to others is enough.
These thoughts partnered with a post I had done yesterday on affirmations.
I don’t have any solutions however anyone who’s working inpatient or ICU right now has my prayers and belief that the work you are doing is enough.
The Dahlia is one my favorite flowers to photograph. It’s delicate yet resilient. The bud reminds me that everyone is on a different journey. If you’re not in the ICU or in these critical environments you may still be questioning where you’re at and the value you’re adding in the work you’re doing …. Or why certain things that you thought would come to pass are not happening (another conversation I had last night)
Flowers remind us that there is no competition at our time to flower or heal however the timing varies for everyone. Some people will need very deep healing after the crisis passes. That time may not be now. Firstly, we need to fine tune the care we provide to ourselves.
Secondly, if you are reading this today, please take a moment to send this to someone and tell them they are enough. 🙏
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